“Price is what you pay, value is what you get”
Andy Bounds, the motivational speaker, comes up with these little gems from time to time. Here’s one I say recently.
Quick quiz: What’s wrong with this conversation?
Person #1: I had a bad day at work today. I argued with Sarah
Person #2: I hate it when I argue with people. I fell out with a friend last month
Person #1: I know. She didn’t like how I described her job in a meeting
Person #2: Exactly the same happened with me. And the friendship hasn’t been the same since
Person #1 I don’t know what to do
Person #2: I don’t either. I used to really like him
So what’s wrong with this conversation?
The answer: It isn’t a conversation.
Neither of them is listening to the other one. This is a good example of what Dr. Stephen Covey meant when he said ‘most people do not listen with the intent to understand. They listen with the intent to reply’
In my experience, everyone thinks they’re good at listening to other people.
But conversations like this happen all-too-often.
So, next time someone says something to you, rather than saying “The same thing happened to me”, ask more about their situation:
- “That sounds hard – what happened?”
- “Really? Tell me more”
It’s an easy fix.
But it makes all the difference – to your chat, to the outcomes following it, and to how much you both enjoy it.
So the Action Point is:
In your very next conversation, do your best to say “tell me more”. And guess what? They’ll probably tell you more!
“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work”.
Thomas A Edison, 11 February, 1847 – 18 October, 1931) who was an American inventor and businessman.
08″Do or do not, there is no try”.
Yoda who is a fictional character in the Star Wars franchise created by George Lucas.
“Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal. Nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong attitude”.
Thomas Jefferson, 13th April, 743 – 4 July, 1826 , American Founding Father who was the principal author of the Declaration of Independence and later served as the third President of the United States from 1801 to 1809
“Build your own dreams or someone else will hire you to build theirs”.
Farrah Gray, born 9 Sep 1984, American businessman, investor, author, columnist, and motivational speaker.